Friday, November 19, 2010

Marriage

..... is not EASY..

First few months, it’s all about adjustment when 2 people live together. I got problems with Azli, because am moving to his 2 years Flat, when my stuffs took all the space, dia agak tense, sebab everything berubahh, Azli rase dia lost control on his own space. Itulah 2 tahun duduk tempat sama tak berubah kan, bila I datang semuaa berubah.

Second, budget. When I asyik swipe his card, he start questioning what things that I bought. Bila I said, groceries, he couldn’t believe it, sebab he used to buy things tak sampai pon amount yang I beli, so my advice, buy groceries together. Bukan sampai situ je, when u do groceries shopping together, itu pon pelik, because, he still asyik menyoal, ‘Why you bought double cream for? Pineapple cans for?

Itulah, kalau dapat husband yang suka makan belacan, nasi everyday, semua local. Hehehe, there’s nothing wrongggg with that, it just, when 2 people live together, dua kepale, lain laahh halnye, that’s why I said to Azli, “Allah knows everything, that’s why you kahwin dengan I, So you can eat double cream & ravioli in your life, haha”

And what facial wipes for??’ No wonder, perempuan memang high maintenance, pads every months lagi, heee see?

I need to adjust things too, I mean, I ni wajib, hanger kena same color, same size, bila Azli just hang his coat in whatever hanger that he can found, its annoyed me! Haha, macam2 kan sebenarnye? Bende kecik boleh jadi besar, but first few months absolutely time to adjust. And, as for me double adjustment, because I left everything back in Malaysia, gave up my career, gave up every weekend balik hometown, jumpa family only in few months time,(I duduk hostel dari form 1, but my family datang visit I every weekend, yes you heard me! Every weekend, macam anak bongsu! Padahal sulung dari 7!! :p :p) So I memangggg sangat homesick in first few months kawen tue, what do you expect when you move drastically thousand miles away? kan?


Next, BIG question. When people asked, dah ade isi ke Nadia? I only answered, "belum, kami honeymoooooooonnnn lagi nie :p " We take one baby step at one time. It’s hard enough for me untuk kahwin as early as 26 and as for Azli, I asked him "Do you want baby now?"  His answer: “I can’t get enough of you lagi, I love just 2 of us, we’re in long distance relationship too long” :p

That’s our marriage life so far.

It just my personal experience, lain orang lain lah kan?

Yeay! Almost a year dah kahwin, Alhamdulillah, I'm so grateful! Semoga kekal sehingga akhir hayat ke anak cucu. Amin

14 comments:

  1. Insyaallah kekal ke hujung hayat,tapi jangan tunggu lama-lama untuk menimang baby.

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  2. insya'allah bila tiba masanya pasti ada rezeki itu...juz enjoy ur marriage life...persetankan apa org nak kata, nak tanya =)

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  3. Indeed different ppl different story on marriage life especially bout adapting and such.but from my experience its true enjoy ur honeymoon period dulu sbb when baby comes along mmg byk changes it brings in coping still with a couple's relationship.
    Also by the time 2 years anniversary hits then most likely both will b able to learn alot in each other's real self and just maybe it'll be time when life's test from the One Above comes to your marriage life.for better or worse depend on how both wants to sail in their marriage love boat :)

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  4. zmah: Thanks darling! Insyallah, kalau ade rezeki cepat :D

    Tah: sayanggggggg kau juge!

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  5. Farah: Thanks darling! betul tue, kalau Allah nak kasi rezeki cepat, takkan la tolak kannnn :D

    Mawar: True!! As Azli said, we still need time for our relationship, so I guess, the boss said so, hahah, lg pon kahwin nie, tak semestinye indah kan, bila ujiannye tibeeee nanti, at least both of us ada foundation yang kuat. I guess, we just not ready yet, with all baby's thing, BUT, kalau ade rezeki awal, terima dengan hati yang terbukaaaa :)

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  6. Dear Nad,
    I've also gone thru that. Yerlah, at first like we're sharing with stranger.Sebelum ni walaupun kenal dah lama,mana pernah share katil, wardrobe, bilik air and so on...different people, different style.But, lelama we adapt taht.But bare in mind, marriages is all about sacrifices!Sometimes, kita yang kena banyak korban rasa kalau nak hubungan berpanjangan coz guys memang tak kisah sangat pasal benda kecik2 ni!

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  7. semoga bahagia selalu dear ;). Sy pun cmtu gak, people around me keep on asking the same question..non stop okay, specially in laws.

    as for hubby pun ckp mcm Azli ckp jugak, dia kata nak manja2 dgn sy dulu :P, tapi kalau Allah nak bagi..we will accept it, takkan nak tolak kan.

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  8. Fieza: True!! Tapi bila lame2 kite dah tak kisah bende2 kecik nie, as long we both happy, kannnn? hehehe :D

    Fiza: uuu too! semoga happy selalu uuuu, I nie tak duduk msia kot, so jarang orang tanye, in law tak de lah tanye sgt, hehe maybe sebab dua2 kakak ipar ku pregnant aritue, focus lebih kepade mereka. Lagi pon, kami dah habaq dgn both families, baby maybe lame lg kot. :D

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  9. nadia,
    yey me too nak one year dah! congrates to both of us!

    love, ksyaz~

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  10. ksyaz: kak syaz dulu kannn! cepat je mase berlalu kannnn ;)

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  11. Yup..enyoy d moments without kids. Once u have 'em, em...Tungu when u have 'em. then u know :-). Anyway reading ur blog reminds me masa mula2 kawin..I pun sam a hanger mesti all same color!

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